Alright, so I’ve got a bit of a story…
I have a really good friend who is/was dating someone. We are both in high school, at a time society finds dating acceptable, though neither of us had dated. Two years ago, my friend was super against dating in high-school, and I was kind of lax about it. Two of my other friends were dating, and it wasn’t annoying, even though both ended poorly.
However, now, my friend was constantly pursuing who-knows-who. It felt like he had a new interest every week. It became a running joke that he would always be around girls, even when it meant his “Me and” was missing “the Boys.”
Eventually, he actually started dating one. At first I was happy, but I realized just how little I had been seeing him, and it was only getting worse. Any time it was the two of us, he was talking about her. It didn’t matter if it was 1:00 and I wanted sleep. But I let it happen. I didn’t want to intrude.
But that’s not where it ended. Not only was he no longer hanging out with us and now pouring all his time away from his family and into this relationship, he needed something pouring back in. The fact that her friends weren’t the best of people rubbed off on him, and he kind of became a worse person. A person even he didn’t like being.
He was in the wrong crowd. I’m not saying he had to be in our crowd, but the way he was acting and treating his friends and family were not commendable. I felt like he only want to talk with me as a formality. And so, the Boys shrank one member.
I don’t really know what happened, but something did. He sat with us one lunch, and I guess what seemed like a normal lunch to me (I was just playing the new Tour in Mariokart) kind of reminded him what it was like around us. Around people that wouldn’t turn him into someone he didn’t want to be. Anyways, I heard a rumor that he’s taking that to heart. That he’s going to make some changes, and I’m all for it.[/details]
TL;DR? I’m okay with high-school relationships. I don’t get the point other than to perhaps best your image to your peers or to yourself, but then again, I’ve never dated. But in my experience, I have seen a lot more cons than pros. Three out of three of my friends’ relationships have ended poorly. You kind of forget the Boys because you’re with your Girl. As adults, that’s normal. That’s fine. But as high-schoolers? I just didn’t want to lose my friend, and that’s what I felt like was happening.