This is the self-consiliation topic, a topic that I personally thing should have existed by now.
I mean, we have a relationship topic, so this one should have big chances to exist without getting shut down too.
We all have our problems. Some of them are extremely personal, but some of them could be shared to other people, in search to find somebody that would be able to help us. Most of the times those people are our parents, our closest friends, a professional, etc.
The TTV MB should be one unified community, in which we can talk about our problems without being afraid that some might react the wrong way or make a joke out of them. So now I created this topic, where you can discuss your personal problems, like anxiety, insecurities, etc. Obviously there would be no actual professional tips, but I am sure that the ones that we can provide would be good enough to help.
I ask the mods to not close this topic, at least not for now. I don’t expect this topic to boom like the aforementioned relationships one, but again: this should have already existed.
If anybody cares about my problem, here it is:
I am generally the smart, kinda nerdy character in the class, although in the last years I tried to get rid of this identity and to be more of a social person, that tries to stay more in contact with his friends and classmates. I am ranging between good and very good at all of my classes, even the ones that are not part of our high school profile (best example: math. I am unusually good at math for the class I picked (long story, needs context)). When I was young, I was thought by my parents that such aptitudes would make the people around me respect me, but either they were wrong, or those people are not in my direct surroundings.
There are a lot of people in my class, especially girls, the ■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■-good-grades-from-time-to-time-type of girls, that explode every time I get a good grade, or some teacher shows his or her admiration for my activity at his or her class. They get arrogant, they try to pity me, to cancel me, to isolate me from the rest of the group. This really hurts, especially that only a relatively short time ago I started realising that the islolationist approach that I was having on me hurts me more than it benefits. They think that I am arrogant to them, that I look at them from above, that I think that I am the best and they are worms. Spoiler alert: I don’t. I never did and I will never do, because at least towards the small sample that is my class, I see everybody as equal, only that some choose to use their time more productively, like reading, than others do by taking selfies three times per brake and listening to gypsy music put on max volume till the very second the teacher enters the class. On the contrary, I actually really respect a select few and I look up to them for being better examples than I am, even tho their grades are smaller than mine at certain classes (btw, I am on the “grades don’t fully represent the person” side of the argument).
I really want to yell at them, to fight them, to try to force the idea into their head that I do not see myself better than them, that I respect them all as fellow Romanian students just as myself. Today actually I had to fight like one third of the class. You want to know the reason? I preferred to handwrite chemical formulas instead of capital writing. In four years I never met anybody explicitly telling me that I have to capital write them, and now suddenly it is a shameless thing and I need to get publicly crucified in front of the teacher.
I know they are just jealous on me. I just know. It’s obvious. But I cannot say this streight to their face, as this would more than likely make the situation worse.
It might also be partly my fault, as I know my stereotype unwilingly transmits arrogance by doing nothing, but I try my best to seem just a normal guy.
a normal guy that reads political books in the brakes and rarely leaves the class, but a normal guy nonetheless
Anyway, this doesn’t really matter.