The Relationship Topic

[EmperorDuckie]

Well that was quick. She broke up with me. She seemed rly sad about it, and now says she can’t talk to me (in specific) for a little while. Not sure if her parents don’t like me (we’re still both under 18 so parental rule is still pretty powerful), or if she just really didn’t want to break up and is now super sad about it. It’s my fault tho. I started the dating relationship when she’d stated several times she didn’t want our friendship hurt from something like that.

[Hawkflight]

we’re still both under 18 so parental rule is still pretty powerful

Back at it again with the dating as minors. I tried that once and got shut down, not because her parents didn't like me, but because her parents didn't like the other guy that their other daughter was trying to get with and wanted to be fair to everyone.

[EmperorDuckie]

Dang that sucks.

[Racie02]

wanted to be fair to everyone.

There definition of "fair" is a little skewed.

[EmperorDuckie]

The "Look What I Just Got!" Topic

Honestly that's still a thousand times better than my first (and so far only) girlfriend. But I completely understand what that feels like.

(Gotta stay on topic my dude)

That sucks. In my situation, I understood how she felt but didn’t agree. I suppose just letting it end peacefully was the best option as arguing never ends well. It was rly all my fault. I shouldn’t have pushed for a dating relationship. We agreed not to date at first bc we’re rly close friends, but then I asked if she wanted to date, and she said yes. It was mutual in a sense, but in the end it was my fault.

[MaximusPrimal]

Wait a minute this topic actually exists? That's good to know.

Anyway yeah. That really sucks. I get what that feels like.

[EmperorDuckie]

I got a girlfriend lol

[MaximusPrimal]

You've seemed to achieved the one thing I'll seemingly never have.
Congrats.

[EmperorDuckie]

I just got a breakup.

[MaximusPrimal]

That was fast

[EmperorDuckie]

She couldn’t see us being long term or anything. Kinda understand, and thought we’d just go back to being friends, but now she either doesn’t want to or can’t talk to me so that’s a little depressing.

[MaximusPrimal]

Honestly that's still a thousand times better than my first (and so far only) girlfriend. But I completely understand what that feels like.

[SteampunkTahu]

@MaximusPrimal & @EmporerDuckie

Relationships are overrated. You can be single and still perfectly happy.

[MaximusPrimal]

I've tried telling myself that many times and I've still been suffering emotionally for almost a year now.

[EmperorDuckie]

Right now I’m not worried about a relationship. Just worried about the hurt friendship, and tbh, her.

[Spiderus_Prime]

@MaximusPrimal & @EmporerDuckie

Relationships are overrated. You can be single and still perfectly happy.

Well sometimes it isn't the case, being single sometimes kills you, before realization that someone actually love you.

[Fershizzledizzle]

Agreed. You have to be your own person wether you're in a relationship or not. I know some people as well as myself at one point who felt like we weren't "complete" if we didn't have a girlfriend.

[Hawkflight]

I've tried telling myself that many times and I've still been suffering emotionally for almost a year now.

From my experience, you know something is missing from your life and believe that having a partner would fill that hole. But you could also fill that whole by actualizing yourself and becoming a better person.

After my first "breakup" (in quotes because we never made it official) I was down in the dumps for the next five months, which impacted my success in school and my creativity. Once I finally snapped out of it I got a lot more out of life, still felt lonely on occasion. But then the event I described earlier in the topic happened, which was a positive experience overall despite it not leading anywhere, and now I'm living my own life and feeling very good about it.

And also. You'll have more success at relationships being self-confident and happy than just lonely. Both my almost-relationships were instigated by the other person, which meant they saw something in me. The first was when I was at a very high place mentally, the second was me becoming hyperactive due to excitement.

[MaximusPrimal]

From my experience, you know something is missing from your life and believe that having a partner would fill that hole. But you could also fill that whole by actualizing yourself and becoming a better person

It's not really that I feel incomplete. More so that I feel horribly lonely.

It also doesn't help that what romantic experience I have had, isn't at all positive.

It all started way back in the 6th grade, where I started crushing on this one girl really hard, and didn't really get over that until my first year of high school.

Towards the end of that same year I got into an actual relationship with another girl, and while I enjoyed it at the time, she was constantly trying to rush things and do things we really shouldn't have been. It wasn't until after we split that I learned she never really cared about me to begin with, was insulting me behind my back, and was cheating on me while we were dating.

Since then I've had two hopeless crushes that while they're short lived, they still hurt to go through. Every time I try to tell myself I can't fall for them because I know how its going to end. If I fall in love with anyone again I'm only setting myself up for failure, disappointment, and pain.

But at the same time feeling the affection of someone else who genuinely cares about me just feels like something I need. At times the loneliness can feel suffocating.

[Tarkur]

To be honest I think @MaximusPrimal brings up a good point here but I can see the choice of living alone working.

I just believe that we as humans need to feel like were appreciated and loved by at least someone close to us. You can totally live on your own and take care of yourself but If you don't have any friends or family that you for sure knows cares about your well being then your gonna feel terrible lonesome. I've been through that more than once in my life and it is feeling like the world is against you or that you feel alone in this world. Of course if you have friends and family that you know cares about you then great. If you've accomplished the things above then living alone isn't as big of an issue.

As for finding a possible partner have to do with much the same reasons and I think this quote sums it up quite nicely: "You want to be loved, in lack there off you want to be admired, in lack there off you want to be feared, in lack there off you want to be hated and disdained. You as a human want to instill an emotion in others."