Well, you’ll eventually split. Even id you don’t consider it a breakup, it does the samw thing. You canr just date one person until rhe day you die without making tthe commitment. (Unless you met when you were old or terminally ill. But that’s a rare case.)
Asides the fact that that’s provably untrue given I know plenty of people in long term relationships who have no intention of ever getting married, and the wide variety of forms that relationships can take…
Saying “relationships either end in breakups or marriage” isn’t untrue, but it’s also intentionally misleading and extreme to call a breakup a failure flat-out. Sure, some relationships fail, but others evolve, or the people in them change. It doesn’t mean the relationship failed it just means that it ended. And yes, commonly people refer to relationships that didn’t work out as “Failed” but that’s also, in a lot of ways, directly ignoring what caused those relationships to not work out in the first place. Saying the relationship failed is an easy way to say “It wasn’t my fault, it was the relationship.”
Also, my “Aunt and Uncle” (Family Friends) have been together for the better part of 40 years, and will never get married or have kids. Why? Because they don’t see the point in it when they aren’t religious and the law treats them as married anyways, why spend the money? However, to say that because they aren’t married “they’ll eventually split” is both disingenuous and making a loooot of assumptions about relationships.
Just like there’s more to relationships than dates, sex, etc, there’s a lot more to relationships than marriage. I respect the people who say they won’t date people if they can’t see them marrying that person, as that’s perfectly valid. However, if getting married is your only goal than you’re not dating to find a partner, you’re dating to get married, and that’s doomed to fail as well.
Point is relationships take a lot of different forms, whether you’re monogamous or not, or serious or not. Dating for the sake of Marriage can be just as bad if not worse as dating for the sake of dating. Not only that, but marriage is A: Primarily a religious institution, and B: A legal contract. Nothing more, nothing less, and you can absolutely make a commitment to someone in the long term without getting married.
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I did point out that there are rare cases. The examples you gave are obviously in the minority. And while yes, marriage is a religious creation, the vast majority of people in the world happen to be religious in some sense. And while, yas again, a nonreligious person can be in a happy relationship with anothrr person without ascribing to marriage without feeling any moral negativity, as I said, they would be the minority, with even the majority of nonreligious relationships partaking in marriage.
All of my girlfriends (besides one) transitioned into friends right after. Breakups are negative in connotation. If the relationship simply changes, then there isn’t an end. Just a ■■■■■.
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I feel what I said was misconstrued, and I had said this in an attempt to fix the statement.
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I think it’s misconstrued because, again, you seem to have a very black and white view on the subject. There’s no one way to have a relationship, or one end goal for a relationship. Everyone is different.
Some people want to find someone they can settle down with, have kids, and live a comfortable life. Others want a travel partner. Some would like all of the above, with the caveat that they want someone to build a live with not just someone to inhabit the life they built for themselves.
Honestly, it all depends on the people. And that Minority is steadily growing year after year, just the same as our Generation is trending towards having far fewer children than our parents.
Also, again, saying “If you aren’t married you’re eventually going to split, even if it isn’t a breakup” is again, very extreme. I would also like to defer to the Pew Research Center, specifically this article that details some interesting statistics. The Marriage Rate is falling overall, for a variety of reasons both personal and economical.
Like I said, I don’t necessarily disagree with your stance, I just disagree with the notion that the only two outcomes are Marriage or Breakup.
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Yes, I will admit, a more open wording would be more appropriate.
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Sometimes it works like that. My grandparents were 15 when they started dating. Depends on the person and the situation in general
EDIT: a few months ago my friend put me in a gc with her friend trying to set us up, and just the past couple days I’ve started to have interest 
idk if she likes me tho, and I’d prefer she not cuz it’s a rly good friendship and I don’t want it hurt by anything too soon
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You must have a great friend then
None of my friends who are females would be the sort to do that…
Which is fine. I don’t know the first thing about dating.
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Ah this friend is a bit of a matchmaker. At least with me. She accidentally set me up in like November. That was very brief and completely pointless
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Ah, yes. The matchmakers. Or in my case, it’s the rumor-spreading younger siblings.
I may or may not have mentioned in this topic that, usually, I’ll never truly develop feelings for someone unless I believe that person likes me - which happened twice thanks to the rumor-spreading younger siblings, and one by the one that actually said she liked me (see my above post circa August 2018.)
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“All you need is love”
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The blood of my enemies is a acceptable substitute.
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Heck yeah
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It done just got complicado mis amigos. I shall update you in due time.
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Dunno if I said this, but I asked the girl I like to the spring dance we’re having…
and she said yes.
Yay!
However, she just told me that she’s going on a trip and won’t be able to go.
Oof.
Guess I’ll be a loner… I think two of my good friends are going, though, so I’ll just hang out with them.
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Man all this talk about proms and girls…I need a date…since I’ll have prom next year. Dang this Germans always copying Americans!
But sie problems my friends is…I have no girl which I can ask out, either they got boyfriends and all that or they aren’t interested in me and others aren’t my type and appeal.
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Be a loser like me and just don’t go
No…my pride is too big for that sometimes I hate it
So, prom was tonight, and I ended up not going. Yeah, pretty much what I was planning on. Pizza and video games are a bit more fun to me than standing in a corner at a silly dance all alone anyways.
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